I spend a lot of time on the internet researching, verifying and engaging with other users. Even though I am very aware of why people believe nonsense, it still surprises me, especially when it takes such little effort to verify pretty much anything you read/view.
Setting aside political beliefs, there is no point even addressing the political nonsense people believe. People are so dug into their beliefs on both sides that it does not matter how many facts, statistics and or physical evidence you present, people are not going to sway left or right without some sort of traumatizing life event. Instead, I am going to focus on a couple of non-political beliefs people have that actually affect their lives and, ultimately, their well-being and happiness.
Most marriages end in divorce.
This is not true. Not even close. The majority of marriages actually end in death, not divorce. This nonsense started in the free-love age of the 60s when, for a short period, perception became reality, but then the divorce rate rapidly declined back to normal and is still in decline. This means that most marriages will actually make it to the “death do us part” bit of the relationship. You should stop believing this divorce nonsense right now. If you go into a relationship with somebody and in the back of your mind you believe the that there is a less than 50% chance of it working out, one of two things will happen: 1. You are going to manifest the demise of the relationship or 2. You are not going to commit fully to your partner leading to trust issues, feelings of loneliness and, ultimately, the decrease in your level of overall happiness.
Think about the traditional wedding vows: "I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part." Nowhere does it mention that you should be dwelling on or planning for the inevitable divorce. So, stop! And you will statistically have a long and (most importantly) happy marriage...until one of you dies, of course.
We are small.
You see it all the time, pictures like the one above with "inspirational" quotes about how small you are in this big world or words to that effect. Adverts constantly proclaiming you are not good enough unless you have the latest (insert useless item here) or this is how you need to act/look to be at least as good as everyone else. Basically, you are surrounded with nonsense telling you how small and insignificant you are. Nothing could be further from the truth. Every single person on the face of this planet has a huge effect on society.
Every single thing you do, or don't do, has a ripple effect that will change the entire course of world history and the beautiful thing is that not one person, regardless of race, sex or sexual orientation, is any better than anyone else. A gay black man might become a billionaire tomorrow because he invented a new operating system for the cell phone. Meanwhile, a straight white woman might hit her breaks in time to avoid killing a child that will grow up and find a cure for everything. You may not always know the extent of your influence, but every second you are alive, the world changes because of you. So, stop believing you don't matter, because nothing could be further from the truth.
There are many more examples, but I sat down to write an article and not a book. The bottom line is, your quality of life and happiness is entirely based on your perspective and beliefs. When presented with any new information it is always good practice to both verify it is true and, more importantly, ask yourself "Does this belief improve my life?".Keep in mind that society was not created with your happiness in mind. In fact, if anything, your misery is of more benefit to society than your happiness is. Happy people don't spend money on things they don't need in an attempt to improve their lives.
The elections are over. Your side either won or lost. The
single-issue idiots on both sides, who don't have any understanding of what is
really going on, are on the streets showing their ignorance to the world. And
you are trying to decide if you should dump your friend/s of 20 years because
they have different political views than you. Stop that shit! Just STOP.
Believe it or not, most people did not and do not live the same life as you. The experiences and exposure to information differs. When people live different lives than you, this strange thing happens: People will think differently than you. Crazy, right?
Instead of getting frustrated because other people don't see things the way you do, why don’t you take a minute to appreciate the diversity that you are being exposed to?
We can't be all things in a society the size of ours. With issues so large that it's impossible to see all the angles ourselves, we need as many people as possible to be observing from as many different perspectives as possible. if you are on a boat 30 feet from shore looking towards the land, all you will see is land. If your friend is on the shore looking out to sea, all they will see is sea. Neither of you is wrong, you just have different perspectives. Even if you were in space looking down at the same scene, you would still be missing the entire universe behind you.
Your friends will hopefully be here long after the current political situation passes and, believe me, nobody is going to be showing up to give you a reward for surrounding yourself with only people that agree with you. If you truly can't tolerate different view points, then either avoid those types of conversations/interactions or maybe ask yourself Why? Is the problem with them or with you? Having friends with different viewpoints is an advantage, not a burden.
Finally, remember this one thing: Your friends actually care about you. The people feeding your need for division...well, they are a different story.
Welcome to the 21st century where your entire life is dictated by social media. Your happiness depends on how many likes you get. Your sense of worth is defined by how many people friend request or follow you and most of your interactions with people are through the comment section.
None of this shit is real. NONE of it.
Think of social media as taking a practice run at life. Once
you've successfully ironed out the wrinkles and developed the person you want
to be, it’s time to take that out into the real world for a test drive.
Think about how much of your life you have wasted on that pretend version of reality. Now, think about how much happier you would be if you were living the life you portrayed on social media. It takes 2000 hours to become an expert at anything, from playing the piano to navigating the stock market. If you are over 25 years old, you have wasted that much time checking in to see how many people have liked the picture of your dinner that you took while your meal was getting cold.
If you are not getting paid to be on social media, then you are stealing from your present and future. Your mobile device has access to the entire world of knowledge, you can learn anything while sitting on the toilet. Instead, you bypass all that information to get to your social apps where the only thing you will learn is that Becky checked in at Starbucks.
Scientifically, when you get a like share or follow, dopamine is released, (a neurochemical known as the “reward molecule”) into your brain. This neurochemical usually gets released after a workout or when you have set and finished a task. Advertisers know this and have manipulated social media platforms in order for you to stay there longer, be exposed to their advertising and, in return, you get the fix that you should be getting by improving your own life.